Updated: Feb 9, 2021
I honestly can't believe the title of this blog, time is flying by as we know it!
2018, 2018, 2018........what a time to be alive! This year has been a roller coaster for me: personally, emotionally, financially, mentally, and so much more. The "trend" on social media has been to select a "word of the year".
I don't think I can just pick one word, it wouldn't capture it all. So instead, I am going to share my lessons of 2018 and what I am looking forward to in 2019.
Happy New Year to all my amazing readers and supporters, continue to stay connected with Soul Health Chronicles, so much more to come!
Lessons and growing pains of 2018:
1. This year has taught me the importance of balancing what's on my plate and not biting of more than I can chew; instead going full force towards what is currently on it. I enjoy multi-tasking by nature, I love to have a million things occurring at once. Am I the only one?
The older I get the more I realize that it's not the smartest way to go about things anymore. This year I allowed myself to become overwhelmed and so anxious, to the point of almost having a nervous breakdown.
All because of what? Saying yes to everyone but myself, telling everyone yes to tasks because there could possible be no one else to help? Or is it because I just like to take on a million things on my plate until I realize that I am running myself crazy? No sis, that's no way to be or to live, enough was enough. I truly learned my limits and the power of setting boundaries this year; in my work, personal, and Soul Health Chronicles lanes. Can I tell you how much this has helped? Girl, oh so much! The power of saying no, confidently and guilt free is empowering.
I know how much I can handle to still give my best self to everything on my plate. If it's a new project or idea not on my timeline and it would break my plate, I confidently say no and keep it in mind for a later date. You have to find what works for you, create balance in all areas and don't be afraid to say no, especially when it means saying yes to you; you're priceless honey!
2. Such a valuable lesson I learned this year: Outgrowing is not a bad thing.
I am a plant lover, and looking to expand my living space into more green everywhere.
If you have a plant that you have been tending to and it starts to outgrow its pot....what do you do?
a. let it remain in the pot, it will be fine
b. place the plant into a new pot, to allow more space to grow
c. cut the long stems to make the plant lighter
What would you do? "I would select choice b for $500 Alex"".
Question....would you do the same if it was you? As you grow you outgrow people, nothing is wrong with that. There's also times when as you grow you remain around some of the same people. You outgrow people that no longer feed you....meaning they are not on the same mindset and level as you or working towards it. And that's okay, the only thing constant in this world is change. You get signs along the way in those relationships to.
Let's think of a few examples:
You been slaying all your goals and are happy and share the news with your people, some are happy for you and some are secret haters. What should you do? Remove those secret haters from your life.
You have a partner who you tell your goals and ambitions to and you start working towards them. Instead of them encouraging you and helping you stay focused, they distract you and become insecure because you are on a mission and determined. What should you do? Reevaluate that relationship and if they person is hindering your growth.
You are in a job or career that you have been giving 150% to and have applied for promotions, special projects, and etc. but continue to get overlooked. If you know you deserve more and don't believe they will recognize your hard work, what should you do. Fix up that resume and head back out into the job market.
All I'm saying is don't fight the outgrowing process. You will keep getting signs until you realize that it's time to embrace the growth. Embrace the change, even if it may be uncomfortable!
3. 2018 has taught me how much fun and peace I have spending time solo. I enjoy hanging with people but there is nothing like that me time. Nothing in this world!
I have always been the type of individual that loves to be alone and values that time like no other. Whether it's dining solo, seeing a movie, a play, a happy hour; I have some of my best times venturing out solo. I encourage those that always think about who to invite out somewhere with them to venture out solo, get to know yourself and increase your circle. Life is all about connecting, with yourself and others!
This year was such a roller coaster, but I enjoyed the ride and would do it again and again.
I truly believe everything occurs for a reason; the good, bad, ugly, and unseen. I am looking forward to 2019 and all that it has in store for Soul Health Chronicles and myself.
I wish you the best in 2019, stay connected with SHC for the ride!
As always, work on becoming the best version of yourself, you are your only competition!
Owner, Soul Health Chronicles