Updated: Feb 9, 2021
I love women, I really do. I love everything about us. Our strength, how we nurture, our instincts, our ability to handle so much and still wear a smile and push forward, our ability to handle literally a million things at once while making it look so easy to outsiders. Our power, strength, and abilities when we form a unified front. Our disagreements, differences, and different views among one another that lead to learning new objectives and perspectives about each other. Everything!
We just get one another. It is hard to explain, if you are not a woman.....but what an amazing feeling of connection if you are.
One reason I created Soul Health Chronicles, is to empower, inspire, and motivate people on their health and wellness journey; mainly women. Men are definitely welcomed into the movement and can work on becoming the best version of themselves; however some things I do create are just for my ladies.
When it comes to our bodies and self image we can be really hard on ourselves for a number of reasons. We find ourselves comparing our bodies to other women, wishing we had this curve, this leg, this stomach, that ass; and as a result not loving our own bodies.
Trust me, the woman that you wish you had their curves, ass, hip, lips, or stomach is probably thinking the same thing about another woman. Who knows if that way of thinking will ever end?
I am still learning to love my body, and to be truly comfortable in my skin; the parts I love and the ones I may not have learned to love.....just yet.
I watched a Red Table Talk episode on Facebook last week and the topic was body image. Check out the episode here: https://www.facebook.com/redtabletalk/videos/568229626909850/
I realized that women are so quick to pin point things we don't like about our bodies rather than the parts that we love. Jada Pinkett-Smith suggested that for a week when you wake up, look in the mirror and say to yourself out loud three things that you love about your body.
I am going to try it out and see how it makes me feel, give it a try if you find yourself pointing out all the things you don't like about your body and not seeing the parts you love first.
In this society we are in, women are objectified to the max now a days. Whether it is on social media, the workplace, the grocery store, the library, school, walking to the bus stop, walking out your home; the environment really doesn't matter. But you know what? It really drives me crazy. That's why I am so passionate and purposeful when it comes to empowering, motivating, and inspiring myself on my journey, as well as other women.
We are already hard on ourselves. It's not easy dealing with being objectified or being seen in only a sexual manner as if that's all you bring to the table. It's not easy hearing someone talk about your curves, face, ass and etc. in a disrespectful manner and not want to smack the smirk off their face. Its. Not. Easy. However most things that women have to encounter and are faced with throughout life is not easy. But we handle it, don't we? With style and grace, and keep it moving while continuing to slay with a smile honey!
When I encounter such situations, instead of wasting precious energy I created something to say myself:
Don't ever get it misconstrued that anything I do is for you
I don't post pictures for you
I don't work on my body for you
I don't do or not do my hair for you, hell, I didn't cut my hair for you
I don't present myself the way I do for your attention, comments, or approval
I don't wear the clothes I do for you
Everything I do is in an unambiguous manner, which is not for you.
So stop being so damn confused, nothing I do is for you
Objectifying women will get you nowhere....not with a real woman, so continue on that way
And I will continue on my way, slaying goals each and every day
One more time for the people in the back......stop being confused, anything I do is not for you.
I am very intentional with my delivery and how I present myself, I want to be seen in an unambiguous way at all time. One. Interpretation. Only. Any other interpretation or assumption simply gets ignored and checked off as negativity that I choose not to take part in.
I refuse to allow any objectivity have me self doubting, second guessing myself, or dimming my light for anyone. Hell to the no.
Level your way of thinking and your view of women all the way up.
Respect that we are so much more than what you see on the outside, and never think that anything we do is for the likes of you.
As always, work on becoming the best version of yourself, you are your only competition!
Owner, Soul Health Chronicles