"If it’s important to you, you’ll find a way. If it’s not, you’ll make an excuse."
How many people have heard this saying before? I’m not sure who said it first, but they definitely were on the money with this one! I used to be the Queen of excuses, it still baffles me when I think about how much time and potential I used to waste.
There are a lot of people in this world, many have great talents and ideas. But what separates the people that go after their dreams and the people that procrastinate and waste valuable time is excuses. Plain and simply put. Excuses. Excuses to me are an easy way out, a way of not having to put in any effort, be complacent, and comfortable with the here and now. Well not for me honey,okay! I have never been a complacent individual, however, I have so much ambition and dreams that I want to become reality which can lead me to be indecisive and wasteful of my time. I am a complex individual.
There was a season in my life where I did let myself get off track. Because let’s be real, there is not one flower that blooms all year around. You find me one person that doesn’t need to take a step back, reevaluate, and regroup themselves while on their life's journey! Please point them out, point them out!
During this season I truly wasn’t myself. My perception of my life was jaded, I began to distance myself from those that truly love, support, and care about me,I became the Queen of self sabotage, and procrastinated my ass off. It was a rough season ya’ll! We may all experience a similar season, some seasons are short and others can last quite a while; everyone is different and that is okay. Seasons are meant to pass, not to stay a lifetime. A factor of how long your season lasts is fueled from your perception and attitude of your situation.I was fortunate enough to have people and resources around who I could talk to about how I was feeling stuck in my life and my lack of motivation. They too knew that I wasn’t myself and wasn’t pushing myself to become the best version of me! Opening up to them helped me see that I had to get myself together!
I was making excuses (told ya’ll I used to be the Queen of this right?) about everything in my life. My career not taking off, my business not being all that I wanted it to be in the blink of an eye, not being recognized when putting my all into something, not having enough funds to do all the great things I wanted to....this list could go on forever okay. I realized during this season that if I wanted to make a change in my life, I had to shift my attitude and how I perceived my situations.
There will be times in your journey where things seem to be falling into place and everything is running oh so smoothly. Then, there will be other times. Times when you don’t feel like yourself, times where you feel you can’t catch a break, times that whenever you turn a corner something is testing your strength and resilience. Every. Single. Turn. What I have learned, during both the sunny and bright seasons and the dark, cloudy, cold, and frigid seasons; your perception and attitude can truly make or break you and the situations your are in.
Your attitude is everything, everything! Peep a look at your attitude when you have everything you’ve worked for and want and also when you seem to get the short end of the stick. I learned that during one of my darkest seasons that I needed a serious attitude adjustment, and only I could fix it.
I began to look at my life in an entirely different light and it has truly changed my perspective on everything and is now more of a motivator to push myself even more instead of making excuses of why things aren’t going how I want them too! Instead of partaking in destructive self sabotage and self doubt, I replaced those thoughts and actions with acceptance of myself, flaws and all, and strive to work on becoming the best version of myself and truly be me, all the time.
Rather than making excuses for why my career isn’t where I planned it would be, I embrace the journey, continue to make connections, create opportunities for myself, network, and put my best professional self out there. This means doing more than what is required and expected of me and putting in 100% even when I don't feel like it. I have learned to be open to suggestions and criticism that is constructive which can groom me for the next opportunity! No one person has all the answers, and I have learned the value of constructive criticism and insight from people on the outside of my situation looking in that want to see me become the best version of myself. Instead of complaining and making excuses as to why my income isn’t sufficient for my lifestyle, (I always say that I can't afford my life!) I changed my perspective to hey I have the funds to pay my bills, start a business and even some left over. It won’t be like this forever, but while it is, I have changed my attitude and perspective on the importance of saving and the positive aspects of being on a budget and getting your finances in order.
When I first started Soul Health Chronicles (www.soulhealthchronicles.com) I knew I had a great idea that I wanted to grow into something amazing okay! At first I didn’t think of the cost involved in starting a business and the importance and value of investing in myself and my brand. Instead of putting off the idea and launch of Soul Health Chronicles, I changed my attitude and perspective of my goal and decided to get started right where I was. As Issa Rae once said “There’s so much creativity in broke-ness”.
You don’t necessarily need money to make a change or to get started on your dreams, passions, and goals. Use what you have currently, tell people about your vision, listen and receive feedback, step outside your comfort zone, invest in yourself and start the grind towards turning your dreams a reality!
Like I said, I used to be the Queen of making excuses, but I traded that crown for one covered in a positive attitude, grit, passion, persistence, growth, grind, and patience. Which crown will you rock?
Shawnte', the creator of Soul Health Chronicles is a workout lover and blogger. She is inspired by health and wellness journeys and wanted to create a platform for them to be highlighted and celebrated. She encourages people to work on becoming the best version of yourself and serves as a reminder that you are your only competition!
Learn more and connect with Shawnte’ at www.soulhealthchronicles.com